So...I did manage a first contact with a long lost cousin. He was a cousin that my mother used to babysit. Then due to some unfortunate reasons his mother had to break up with my uncle and move to another borough and then another part of the state. I sent him a second text message, since I had not heard from him from my first message. I basically said that we weren't responsible for the mistakes of the adults who made us. What we were responsible for was for having knowledge that each other existed and not at least reaching out and that perhaps a phone call could heal some wounds in our past on both sides.
He called me within 3 minutes. Our conversation and the emotions were overwhelming. He immediately called my mother, because he had not spoken to her since he was a child. She cried, as I told him that she would. Then he called me back and I let him know how I had felt about everything that had happened at the time that our family fractured. There were a lot of wounds there. None of it our fault. He knew the names and locations of several lost cousins. He asked if I was planning a reunion. All I could say was perhaps, if that's what everyone wanted to do. But for now, it was just great to reconnect wit him. The last time I spoke with him, I believe I was 13 and he was maybe 2 or 3 years old. Sadly, both of his parents and his younger brother have passed on. He has his own family, a wife and kids. But now he will never ever be alone again.
As heartwarming as that was, it appears that the female cousin rejected my message and Facebook friendship offering. I'm pretty sure that she is related to me. All information points in that direction. Then there was another cousin down in GA, who may not even realize that when his mother left NYC...she was moving him just hours closer to where his father's side of the family originated. It will be interesting to see if he reaches back out to me.
He called me within 3 minutes. Our conversation and the emotions were overwhelming. He immediately called my mother, because he had not spoken to her since he was a child. She cried, as I told him that she would. Then he called me back and I let him know how I had felt about everything that had happened at the time that our family fractured. There were a lot of wounds there. None of it our fault. He knew the names and locations of several lost cousins. He asked if I was planning a reunion. All I could say was perhaps, if that's what everyone wanted to do. But for now, it was just great to reconnect wit him. The last time I spoke with him, I believe I was 13 and he was maybe 2 or 3 years old. Sadly, both of his parents and his younger brother have passed on. He has his own family, a wife and kids. But now he will never ever be alone again.
As heartwarming as that was, it appears that the female cousin rejected my message and Facebook friendship offering. I'm pretty sure that she is related to me. All information points in that direction. Then there was another cousin down in GA, who may not even realize that when his mother left NYC...she was moving him just hours closer to where his father's side of the family originated. It will be interesting to see if he reaches back out to me.
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